To be Civil, or Not to be Civil…..
I know Jeremy doesn’t like meta-threads — discussions about how we discuss things here. He even explicitly says "If you have a comment or question about the way this website is run, just write to me instead of starting a discussion."
So the "rule" here is "Be civil."
Obviously, lots of uncivil things get said here, on a daily basis. Too bad, given that we all come here to talk about this music we love. We have at least that in common.
In the past, I’ve lobbied Jeremy by email to flesh out his civility rule with a few more guidelines. (I’ve also pleaded with him to be more visible when a post is uncivil—that way, all of us would learn what sort of behavior oversteps the line.)
So I was thinking of a few guidelines that are often used in public dialogue forums.
- Challenge ideas, not people.
- Show respect for other’s opinions (or simply don’t address them).
- Participate in good faith - that is, refrain from stirring the pot maliciously, and speak with reason, not rhetoric.
- Keep a sense of humor.
- Stay focused on the prize: even when you disagree with someone, we’re all here for the same basic reason (in this case, a passion for Irish trad music).
Sure, I’ve violated these a few times myself, in large part because civility had broken down and no rules at all were in force. That degrades the whole board. Let’s nip that problem in the bud so we can all get back to better conversations.
So what are your ideas? Can we collectively petition Jeremy to update and clarify the civility clause? Shouldn’t 40,000 members have some say in how they interact?
Feel free to challenge my suggestions and post your own.
[Hoping this thread lives for more than 15 minutes….]