Do not ask for credit as refusal often offends - lending instruments??
I found myself in a West of Ireland town for the weekend, and (on Friday) was sitting beside some musicians playing a session. Having left the fiddle in the hotel (not walking distance) - this was a ‘reccy mission’ i found wanting to scratch the itch with a set. I politely asked one of the fiddle players (a young lad - around 17 - good player) if he would mind if i borrowed his fiddle to play a set.
This was met with not exactly a ‘no’, but his relunctance said everything and a more senior player came to his rescue saying ‘ah you know what musicians are like…. you have to bring your own with you.’. Another fiddle player heard the exchange and remained silent. So that was that.
The instrument would have been perfectly safe, i assured him and i was not inebriated.
I was taken aback, but said ‘no problem’…. and remained and enjoyed the rest of the session.
Thinking it over i thought perhaps he felt that him being a juvenile i would take advantage, hog the instrument and not return it promptly - which i can assure you would not have been the case - all i wanted was a set.
It seemed unusal to me as our session at home is one where a core of musicians is paid, and we have a policy for visiting musicians - developed by no less a man than the late Bodhran Bliss - ‘you can play all you f*cking want…. but you’re not getting f*cking paid!!’
Visitors arrive and if they can play an instrument, one is promptly loaned without question.
The Saturday night was a totally different story - different pub, a more mature session. One guy could play both flute and fiddle, and when i asked him could i have tune, he refused to take the instrument back the rest of the night - which left my non-playing partner rather neglected. Tunes and songs flowed until the small hours, and it was a tremendous welcome to experience.
So the question is - which is your session?