Puzzled. Is it etiquette or something else?
So, I play in three or so different sessions in my town, all with a sort of core group of men aged 50+. I am frequently the only female (which may have nothing to do with anything). But the issue is, when I like someone’s playing, or tune choice, or notice improvement, I have a natural impulse to say so—but I’ve noticed that no one else does this. No one ever compliments anyone. The only compliments I’ve received (other than being invited in the first place) were given in private, never in front of others. So, I’m wondering:
Is it considered rude to compliment a player? Is it an issue of offending the people you aren’t complimenting? Is it rude because no one asked? Is it a typical male thing? Or just an ITM thing? Or are my session mates weird? It just seems strange to me. We’re all friends, right? We’re not competing? Or are we? Am I off the mark? Or totally overthinking it? What does it mean?!