session etiquette for shy intermediate players
OK - I found a lovely session in Toronto, but I can’t really keep up with them yet (mostly because I don’t know any of their tunes). They are very warm and welcoming, but when they invite me to start a tune, I get an attack of nerves and either play badly, too fast, or a tune that no-one knows. Is it rude to sit there with my fiddle on my lap and mostly just listen (waiting - perhaps all night - for them to play something I know), declining the invitation to play because it terrifies me too much? Or is it ruder to play something badly that is more than likely unknown to the other players? Question 2 - I also play bodhran and I bring it to play for all the tunes I don’t know. What is an appropriate ratio of bodhran players to other session players (I am assuming 1 is the maximum for all but the biggest sessions). Also, is it rude to discreetly record the session on a mini-disk recorder if I ask the players first? This way I can learn the tunes and catch up quicker than if I just try to remember them one at a time. Thanks.