What’s a good Christmas gift?
Here’s a stupid dilemma, but I still need help.
I’d like to get my fiddle instructor a Christmas gift. Nothing extravagant of course, just something extra to show my appreciation for all his help and effort this past year. He spends a lot of time with many students, and charges a nominal fee, almost a token. It’s clear that his motivation is the love of the Music and passing on the tradition. He’s helped me with everything from bow grip to repertoire, all with infinite patience towards this dullard of a student.
At first I thought a bottle of wine would be a perfect gift – it’s not an imposition, it’s impersonal enough suitable to our relationship etc. However, I’ve noticed on occasion when at lessons in his home that his wife had several friends over and they sat around the kitchen table holding hands and praying. This was explained away as a “meeting”. They’re not otherwise a demonstrably religious couple. Which makes me wonder if his wife is in AA, then of course the wine is totally inappropriate.
I was thinking that maybe I could take one of the other students aside and ask them if this was the case, but I don’t want to start unfounded rumors, nor do I want to make the other student feel as if they too should give a gift. I just want to make a quiet gesture.
Sorry for this long explanation. I have the social skills of a toad, and a tendency to careen between thoughtless insensitivity and way overthinking things.
Any thoughts on a suitable gift?